"Your genuine action will explain itself, and will explain your other genuine actions. Your conformity explains nothing. Act singly, and what you have already done singly will justify you now. Greatness appeals to the future. If I can be firm enough today to do right, and scorn eyes, I must have done so much right before as to defend me now. Be it how it will, do right now. Always scorn appearances, and you always may. The force of character is cumulative."
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
I am an unremarkable mature BBW. I write about Embracing My Single, being HSV-2+, the challenges of living with mental illness, and my healing journey from the trauma of childhood sexual abuse.
I write about past and current relationships. Some of it is pretty saucy. Much of it is profound and redeeming.
My goal is to share my experiences with others who suffer mental illness as I do. I want you to understand you can do things that go against your Truth and not self-condemn.
I have lived a life. You might never expect that life to lead me to seminary, but there I am. A deconstructing fiend. Walking out my doubt and faith and reluctantly embracing the notion I'll never know the Why.
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I've written two books: How To Do Single With Dignity & Grace and Empowered Online Dating, available on Amazon.
Contact me at cocodensmore@outlook.com.
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